Suffering begins when you mentally name or label a situation in someway as undesirable or bad. You resent a situation and that resentment personalizes it and brings in a reactive “me.”
Naming and labeling are habitual, but that habit can be broken. Start practicing “not naming” with small things. If you miss the plane, drop and break a cup, or slip and fall in the mud, can you refrain from naming the experience as bad or painful? Can you immediately accept the
“isness” of that moment?
Naming something as bad causes an emotional contraction within you. When you let it be, without naming it, enormous power is suddenly available to you.
-Stillness Speaks by Eckhart Tolle